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| Mama Doris Ann-- Dec 1 1936-- Oct 27th 2015 |
My Only Comfort is knowing she is with Jesus in Paradise Luke 23:43....
She wrote this possibly a few years ago I'm not absolutely sure of the date but I come into agreement for I feel as if I am in the "House of Mourning" greatly right now.....
My Mr C has been down this whole last week with absolutely "no strength", In the Bed"only but to sleep,O Dear God have Mercy...
I pray that if any one has had to go through a long illness,watch death knock at your door,
I pray you find comfort in what the Lord has given through this precious Woman my Mama who is now with Jesus, "All Glory and Honor" is yours "Holy One" Most High" Father of our Lord Jesus Christ"
Thank you Lord for My Mama,
GRIEVING in the “HOUSE OF MOURNING”
Ecclesiastes 1:18; 7:2-4
“For with much wisdom
Comes much sorrow:
The more knowledge,
The more grief.”
Ecclesiastes 1:18
“It is better to go to the house of mourning
than to go to the house of feasting . . .
3) Sorrow is better than laughter,
because a sad face is good for the heart.
4) The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning
but the heart of fools is in the house of pleasure.”
Ecclesiastes 7:2
I HAVE SO MUCH PAIN AND LOSS ‘WHAT DO I DO with it ?’
God has made ways to get pain out of our heart and mind; one of the ways is learning to grieve in the ‘House of Mourning.’
The ‘House of Mourning’ isn’t a literal house but it’s a place in our soul where we can go to God and be sad, and freely bring all of our pain, grief, sorrow and hurt to Him.
Grieving is when we’re sorrowful, and extremely sad usually from loss. God wants us to bring our most sorrowful feelings to Him, even if our loss has caused anger. Anger can get mixed up in pain and sorrow, and becomes a very heavy load in us to carry. God gives us this opportunity to learn how to go to the ‘House of Mourning’ so we can get peace and comfort in our mind, and soul. It is the honest place we can freely say what our heart is bearing. He will not condemn us, He understands our loss.
This lesson is going to teach us how to do that.
THE BIBLE TEACHES US ABOUT SUFFERING.
King David said, “I am troubled, I am bowed down greatly; I go mourning (sad, grieving) all the day long . . . I groan because of the turmoil of my heart” Psalm 38:6, 8
“The spirit of a man (woman, boy or girl) will sustain him in sickness, but who can bear a broken spirit?” Proverbs 18:14
We know hurtful memories get locked in our mind and soul that we can’t get rid of, but we don‘t know how to let them go.
Boundaries teach us these things are in our yard (soul). That makes us responsible for them. ‘So what are we going to do about them?’
WE BEGIN BY ACKNOWLEDGING WE HAVE LOST A PERSON THAT MATTERED VERY MUCH TO US.
We acknowledge:
WHAT LED UP TO THE LOSS?
Your hopes?
What was it like for you when you realized there was no hope?
What began happening to me?
How has it affected me?
Can you describe the loss?
We acknowledge:
What may never be possible again
When you think of that what comes to your mind?
What is gone I didn’t want to lose?
What can never be?(dreams/hopes I had etc.)
What is the sad reality for me?
Psalm 3:4-4 “But you are a shield around me, O LORD; you bestow (honor and give) glory on me and lift up my head. To the LORD I cry aloud, and he answers me from his holy hill.”
NEVER FEAR GOD --- HE IS FOR YOU!
Whatever it is, whatever is in our soul, and haunts our mind God is waiting for us to come to the ‘House of Mourning’ to talk to Him. He is waiting for us to pour out our heart to HIM and tell HIM how it was for us; how it is for us now. Do not choose your words bear your soul, your honest feelings!! If need be bear your heart to a “safe” person who you feel permission to bear all the good, bad and ugly heartache, a safe person will understand.
God wants us to grieve our pain, our sorrow, our irreplaceable loss, perhaps anger, and bear our soul to Him. You can tell God anything, He understands it all.
I Peter 2:21 “To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.”
SOMETHINGS ARE NOT EVER GOING TO BE JUST AS WE IMAGINED THEY WOULD BE;
The loss is perhaps nothing like you could have expected or thought it’d be, the pain is beyond bearing, and your heart is broken beyond words. You feel as if it is impossible to bear this even what we "expected from God."
We need to live life by faith, as we are given it and do that very realistically. Holding on to things we have no control over is like always having our fists clenched tight, so tight our hands ache but we won’t open them up. Open your heart and allow GOD in to help you, it is like opening your hands wide and lifting them to Him.
Learning to open our hands wide up to God, not holding on to anything -and grieving the loss of whatever it is deep within our soul is healing, and gives us hope for our future.
I Timothy 2:8 “I want men (women, boys and girls) everywhere to lift up holy hands in prayer . . .”
~~~~~~~~Let’s take another look at this scripture.~~~~~~~~~~
Ecclesiastes 1:18 “For with much wisdom comes much sorrow; the more knowledge, the more grief."
Can we begin to see what Solomon, David’s son is telling us? We come to a point in our lives where we realize what is gone, forever;
* The love of my life taken from me in death.
THE WISDOM OF SCRIPTURE, AND THE KNOWLEDGE WE GAIN FROM THE TRUTH OF IT IS;
* Realization
* Reflecting back,
* Knowing what has transpired in our lives in more clarity, and without any reservations grieve it all to our Lord, sparing nothing.
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”
All our broken dreams or expectations must go with open hands and heart to be put in GODS protective care.
I WANT TO LIVE MY LIFE WITH WISDOM AND KNOWLEDGE Ask God: teach me to grieve those hurtful things in my heart with Wisdom and Knowledge. God tells us;
"It is better to go to a house of mourning than to go to a house of feasting." Ecclesiastes 7:2
What does that mean?
* Not living in denial anymore and ignoring my pain, my regret!
* Accepting what is!
* Looking at life realistically.
* Taking care of my own YARD, my soul, and knowing this is a process and it will take time. The grieving process is for some baby steps, if that is you take them, take your time and grieve well God has given you permission.
Grieve it, and let it all go!
If God so chooses to enrich our lives with the desires of our hearts that are purely focused on HIM not us and our wants, then he says,
"Sorrow is better than laughter because a sad face ----------- is good for the heart!" Ecclesiastes 7:3
And he goes on to validate our sadness and say,
" The heart of the wise, is in the house of mourning." Ecclesiastes 7:4
“The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:17-18 (Psalm 53;22; 56:3
And to make things even more pointed James says ;
"Grieve, mourn and wail. -----(if necessary)--------Change your laughter to mourning and your JOY to gloom. 10) Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up!" James 4:9-10 (all in due time).
HE WILL LIFT YOU UP!
There is no short cuts to this process allow yourself to feel the loss and allow yourself to say all to God that has been bottled up in you – do not fear He understands.
Perhaps often you’ll have to go to this truth over time and
* Grieve what is not
* What may never be - could not ever be
* What is disappointing and grievous to me
* MY OWN expectations----------(what I wanted God did not permit)----------grieve it all as if it was all dead, and gone, buried, grieve it and then open your hands and heart and let it all go-----!!!
God is saying, “I am the lifter of your head,” - give your expectations to ME, (Psalm 3:3)
* your grief,
* your pain,
* your disappointments,
* your ‘will never be's’ and I'll give you the desires of your heart!! --- on
MY TERMS.
TRUST ME!
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”
If part of the pain you suffer in your soul is in part something you feel guilty for or something you have done that you’re ashamed of, God does know, but he is waiting to hear from you to forgive you because he loves you and died for that sin. You can take that as well to the ‘House of Mourning,’ God is waiting.
Shalom
Doris Trainor
